Is it really such a horrid thing to find happiness in the happiness of another if you love yourself enough to let go of selfish acts and embrace self-less-ness to create a beautiful but imperfect world for love to thrive in?
Today I am going to begin a new feature for everyone. Sunday is a day to recharge the battery and reflect on the day. In many ways, Sunday mornings for me, have always been a day to connect with emotional expansion and deep thought. A fine day for both reflection and showing appreciation to the universe so with this in mind, I will touch on Sunday mornings I will touch upon topics that are close to my heart and call this feature: Sunday Morning Coffee. So, in the spirit of my new featured writing section, grab your favorite beverage, sit back and let's share thoughts, notes and bare our soul's to one another. From a smile to a tear, I do hope "Sunday Morning Coffee will touch your heart as much as does my own.
Yesterday an interesting topic was brought to my attention. In a nutshell, it was summarized that any man who attempts to please a woman or take care of her is considered a "simp" in our current day in age. Now, for any of you who may not be familiar with this terminology, Simp is a slang insult for men who are seen as too attentive and submissive to women, especially out of a failed hope of winning some entitled sexual attention or activity from them.
Translation? The word simp is meant to troll young men for doing anything for a girl to get some action he supposedly deserves. Massively trended among late 2019 and early 2020 due in part to a TikTok trend among male members of Generation Z called “Simp Nation.” The slang has been criticized for stereotyping such men as effeminate and implies women are manipulative sexual objects.
So, the term is used to degrade men who do seemingly kind things for women in the attempt to get laid with failure for the most part BUT now the term has evolved into serving as a word used to stereotype men who are kind to a female in a derogatory manner in the attempt to find masculinity through negativity.
This I find interesting for many reasons, for the most part, the term is most noticeable when applied to the insecurities of those using the term and the true intentions of why said term is aimed toward another man. In our set coffee time, however, I will not use this platform as a "bash-worthy" moment to speak on childish behavior and ignorance because I judge my readers to be much more intelligent than such low brow comments would find necessary to be understood and intention and instead, like my mentioned beliefs in the beauty of the power within our universe and how the "law of attraction" works, I, instead would like like to quickly like to speak on the what is beautiful in a relationship and with the help of my gorgeous friend Adele and her wonderful song called: "Lovesong" which I have posted in appreciation on #YouTube to accompany my thoughts, here is my take on the word "simp" being applied to truly engaged, empathetic lovers.
As hinted above, my personal take on the word "simp" being applied to a good man with a good heart is simply ignorant and small and this is why:
Love in it's truest form is not a one sided act. True love is not manifested or kept alive by one lover alone. The biggest mystery about love that aids to the failure in most relationships is simply that love is NOT an easy road to take 24/7/365 and many who trudge that road end up failing because they simply did not wish to put in the work. For those relationship guru's, many of my thoughts and expositions can be seen a trips into co-dependency and I acknowledge your analogy now, however, i would like to state that i do not fully agree. I don't think that being fulfilled by bringing your lover happiness or a healthy addiction to watching their smile when you take care of them is necessary co-dependency IF you have learned to love yourself and do not trade said love in for servitude but rather enjoy bringing you significant other happiness because it simply is a silent beauty measured by a caring soul who truly loves another.
Is it really such a horrid thing to find happiness in the happiness of another if you love yourself enough to let go of selfish acts and embrace self-less-ness to create a beatiful but imperfect world for love to thrive in?
Are you telling me such #oldschool #chivalrous acts as opening the car door for your lover, buy her favorite gum on the way home because she may run out or taking his or her hand in the car and kissing her fingers just so they will give you one beautiful smile that makes the dreaded trip oh, so worthwhile is a sign of weakness or sad attempt at controlling their sexual intentions? Is loving to kiss someone or needing to know they love you one more time because knowing they love you above all other fish in the sea is the most wonderful thing you've ever known truly a sad and weak act of shame as stated and forced upon society using the slang words to demote people from good hear ted to weak, blind and sad examples of a race, sex or religion? How the hell did this type of thinking become a common denominator in our society and when did weak social norms leave happen stance and find themselves promoted to rational thinking and labeling in our society?
To say I am a bit saddened by this type of labeling is an understatement. Honestly, I am not really understanding the full intention of the "why" others would judge so harshly but as I always say, fuck 'em if they don't get it.
In the end, what others say and think truly has no bearing anyway. It is all a societal game of cliche' that ends up empty and heartless in the end. My opinion on this topic is simply this:
Yes, a person should never be a slave of the body or mind to another for sure, BUT "simp" is a stupid word, used by ignorant people trying to gain simplistic control out of insecurities they never worked through and I am guessing most drive large trucks, over-weight train and have a complex of small stature that causes their souls to be cluttered with evil. Love is a truly life altering experience that others who are not fortunate enough to share in their lives seemingly enjoy bashing and belitte in the attempt a curing their own lack of love in their own lives by ruining another. The act of kissing for unspoken reasons, dancing in the kitchen eating chips in bed, footsies, hand holding and the million other human ways of expressing affection are the stuff dreams are made of and life is worthy of living over.
If you truly use your mind to think of the "why" others would berate those in love, you will come to find the answer is simply ugly negativity spawned from jealousy of not having that type of relationship goal achievement in their own lives. With all of this said, I will end this writing, our first #SundayMorningCoffee with a simple thought that I have used many times in a surprising but true manner by quoting of all things, the bible for divine inspiration:
4 Love is patient and kind; love does not envy or boast; it is not arrogant 5 or rude. It does not insist on its own way; it is not irritable or resentful;[a] 6 it does not rejoice at wrongdoing, but rejoices with the truth. 7 Love bears all things, believes all things, hopes all things, endures all things. So in the end, Love, true love, the kind we all would search for an enormous responsibility and hard to retain. If you are lucky enough to love and be loved in a healthy and fulfilling manner, just understand that finding joy in a lovers joy at your love for them is not "simp-ing" but rather a gift from the universe that you must earn, respect and do your dam-nest to keep. Receiving joy from another happiness is not a weakness but a truly mature stance that only adults who understand how short life is and how precious moments are will comprehend and truly understand. Be proud of who you are, what you have and respect the journey.
I think we can all agree upon the fact that some usage of the slang term "simp" is simply youthful ignorance trying to play child games to find a superiority out of their on inferiority in our society. That should make you smile at this writing, sip your coffee and feel your heart warm at the thought that "word-salad" and weak games are for children and real love is a life force beyond anything their tiny minds will understand. A piece of advice, next time you find yourself in the position of being called a "simp" for having a good heart just remember this:
Sticks and Stones may break our Bones but ignorance and true love is a thing that will always escape such individuals. Be grateful to the universe you understand the beauty of love. The only simp's in the world are those with weak intentions and small minds. It's cute really, so just laugh and keep on loving your lover like there is no tomorrow,
..and too those youngsters we will say this: Silly Rabbit's "simpin' and insecurity is for kids!